Dates for Sex

New York adult dating is always an adventure. You never know if a particular night out will turn into a catastrophe, a one hell of a sex night or a sudden destiny of true love. In short, to date in new York is like a roller coaster ride. It would be nice if we New York daters will have some sort of an expert guide about the dating rules in New York and what not to do. Fortunately, I’ve met some relationship experts yesterday and beg them (literary) to share some tips on how to find love or how to have a good New York adult dating experience. Read on and learn.

The hardest part of New York Adult Dating
Expert 1 says: I have to say that New York City is harder for women. There are 200,000 more single women than single men in the Big Apple, so men are kings here, they can actually date two or more women if they like. And also I will be the first one to admit that most NYC men have a little bit of an entitlement issue when it comes to women, even if they are dating many themselves. Also their mentality is such that if the woman they are on a date with isn’t giving them exactly what they want, they have no problem ending the date abruptly and moving on to the next woman, who they believe is around the corner waiting in desperation to go out with them. Plus, many times these men are in absolutely no hurry to commit to one woman. Well, why should they be? They have way too many options with all of the single women out there more than willing to go out with them. A lot of women in New York start to compromise what they really want in a man just to have a dating life. The best way for a woman to date in New York City is to keep it casual and make sure that any man interested in her understands that she is dating other guys.

Best places to meet great guys in New York
Expert 2 says: I recommend uncontrived environments: Central Park dog runs, Whole Foods and running clubs. Charity events and volunteer groups are also great. Chelsea Piers and Harry’s Cafe on Wall Street are also very great places to date.

Best places to meet great women in New York
Expert 2 says: I like the fashion district and the West Village, as well as the cosmetic departments in the three B’s: Bloomingdales, Bergdorf Goodman and Barneys.

Common New York adult dating mistakes
Expert 3 says: Guys make these mistakes: They do not follow through, They ask questions about a woman’s romantic past, They have lost the ability to be chivalrous, They do not communicate well, They can be emotionally unavailable and are always busy. Girls make these mistakes: They call guys first, They sleep with men too soon, They ask the guy to define the relationship, They are too available, They allow everything to be on the man’s terms

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As a long time New Yorker, I still cant find a word to best describe the New York adult dating scene. I’ve been through many ups and down in New York and I can say that there is nothing more horrifying and magical than dating in New York City. It is like a roller coaster ride. One time you are both truly in love, other times, it’s just a freaking hookup session. So for all you New York adult dating people out there, here are the pros and cons of dating in New York.

Pros of New York Adult Dating

It really is magical. The stereotype is true – New Yorkers don’t know how to slow the fuck down. We most fast, multitask everything, and we can do this all on autopilot without absorbing anything that goes on around us. But when we’re on a date with someone we like, we’re different. We suddenly become aware of hidden Dim Sum restaurants and alleyways we’re certain didn’t exist until five minutes ago. When you’re with someone new in New York, it feels like you’re seeing everything for the first time. In some ways, you are.

A good date doesn’t have a price tag on it. New Yorkers doesn’t care how cheap or how expensive their dates are. What’s important is they’ve enjoy it. Gone are the days of expensice restaurant dating. Ride the free Staten Island Ferry, eat franks along the way, get booze later and have the happiest time of your life.

There are tons of options. There are just a lot of young, single people in New York. They all belong to one dating website or another, they’re out every night of the week, they’re going to the gym, and they’re sauntering up to you while you’re trying to get the bartender’s attention.

Cab rides. There is nothing like making out in the back of a yellow cab. Nothing. And New York is known for doing this hookup.

Cons of New York Adult Dating

Everyone knows everyone. New York is like a fucking college campus, down to catching your friend on her bi-weekly walk of shame while you’re on your way to work. You can hit it off with someone who seemed like they moved to New York for you; just to be charming and interesting with a side of mind-blowing sex, but when you finally look them up on Facebook the reality is much bleaker than that. You have 13 mutual friends – the guy who broke your heart, your cousin Mickey, the girl who interned with you in 2007, your next-door neighbor, it just doesn’t end.

Buyer’s Remorse. Sometimes we get in a slump and date the first person that seems like they’re interested – and then, perhaps around Date #3, we meet their friend. Their friend! The one we should’ve been with our entire lives. They are so perfect. They are so remarkable and hot. WHY. The person you’re dating is always friends with your future spouse.

Been there, done that. When you have a favorite block, or restaurant, or bar, or neighborhood, it’s expected that you’ll share them with the person you’re dating. In turn, they’ll take you to their places. And you’ll create memories in those places. It’s all very romantic. Eventually, you’ll break up; And then one day, you’ll be walking down St. Mark’s Place with a friend. “That’s where I did karaoke with Tom!” Ten feet later. “That’s where I was standing when John broke up with me on the phone!” One block later. This is where I got a tattoo with Sam.” And that’s when it hits you. You’ve been leaving memories all over the city like you’re the fucking Easter bunny preparing for an egg hunt. And those memories? They’re all spoiled and gross now.

Everyone is Busy Everyone in New York is either busy, a flake, or both. Even people who don’t have jobs are busy. You will utter the words, “He’s just busy” so many times that even you don’t believe it anymore. This is the nature of the game; you are a bad, busy, flaky person. And so is everyone you date. This is the game of flake in New York adult dating. Embrace it or die alone.

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The city of Charlotte, North Carolina is known as the home of the first chunk of gold found in the U.S., and it also has many other great attractions. The Hornet’s Nest is the center of over 250 Fortune 500 companies, and it features a banking center that rivals that of New York City. In fact, Charlotte is one of the best cities in the country to live in, and you can bet that the Charlotte adult dating scene is also one of the best places to enjoy a date or two. Here’s an inside scoop on the Charlotte adult dating scene.

The Weather

You don’t have to worry, because if you don’t like Charlotte’s weather, it will change very soon anyway. The city’s weather is quite fickle as a bright and sunny weather in the morning can change to give you sheets of pouring rain in just mere moments.

If you’re planning to go out on a date outdoors, which is quite easy to do because of all the outdoor cafes and bars, make sure to have an umbrella handy.

Dress to Impress

You will often see people in professional attires in Uptown during the day because of the city’s corporate atmosphere. All the worn suits, ties, and corporate skits worn during working hours quickly change to slacks, jeans, and party dresses after 5 P.M. If you’re planning a not-so-formal date in the city, go for a casual but dressy look with slacks and collared shirts for guys, and skirts or dresses for gals.

It’s All About Uptown

If you’re looking for an exciting adventure when out on a date in Charlotte, you might want to go to Uptown or the city center, because this where all the action is. From bars, restaurants, museums, to nightclubs and hotels, Uptown is the life of the city and the perfect place to go out on a date or check out the Charlotte adult dating scene if you’re single.

Drinks in Charlotte

If you want to relax, have a good conversation and want to get to know your date better over a few drinks, there are a lot of great places in Charlotte. The bars and lounges scattered all over the city is a reflection of the people who live here warm, friendly and inviting. For oversized cocktails at reasonable prices, head on to Boardwalk Billy’s on J.M. Keynes Drive. And if you want delectable seafood sandwiches, the place also offers delicious snacks. You can also find Alexander Michael’s on West 9th, which is a friendly sit-down pub that offers cold beers and hot food. There is an abundance of places to enjoy drinks and interesting conversations in the city of Charlotte.

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The online Charlotte adult dating scene is full of fun and excitement. It is a great social activity that many people are looking to be involved in. The best thing to do is browse the Internet to find the best online dating service that suits you and sign up. As a single mom, I sometimes feel so isolated by the real world because of society’s opinions. This makes the online dating community much easier to move around in, and make everyone feel special and love because of the absence of most inhibitions. You can interact with other singles with the same situations on Charlotte adult dating sites. Before searching for the best dating site that suits you, you might think that dating online might expose your kids to harm by introducing another person in your life. But once you find the online dating service that’s perfect for you, you will surely enjoy what the dating life has to offer.

A lot of people wouldn’t admit that they sometimes feel empty inside. They have an emotional cup that needs to be filled. Once you try looking for a potential partner in the Charlotte adult dating scene, you will feel overwhelmed with a positive attitude towards dating and even life in general. You can only be lifted from the ground if you extend your hand and let someone take it and help you up. You can do this by signing up for an online dating site where you can meet and connect with other Charlotteans who know how to appreciate who you really are, and could even help you become a better person. I honestly enjoy going on dates. I’m not sure if it’s the excitement I feel when connecting with people that I love, or it’s the experience of meeting new people. I’m a living testimony that you can have such a good time when you attend dating events or when you chat and interact with other people in the online dating community.

Many online dating sites offer almost the same things. Charlotte singles have come up with the idea of online dating clubs that is run by trained matchmakers and people to talk to when you need special attention. These matchmaking representatives who facilitate communication and coordinate with dates have dramatically changed people’s single lives. It is always a good to have the services of a trusted dating site that gives you that nice feeling of never having to be single, unless it is your choice, of course. You will never have to find yourself in a boring lifestyle as a Charlotte single because of the good opportunities to be happy can be found in these online dating sites. You may live in a good house, with a small theater and library, and with a very lovable dog, but it’s all nothing without the presence of romantic human interaction. You can add the spice in your boring life by joining the  Charlotte adult dating  online scene.

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Single professionals in the Charlotte adult dating scene have a lot of good options for date night ideas in the heart of the city. The Queen City corporate culture exudes power and passion from the gorgeous luxury apartments to the high-end restaurants. This gives many opportunities for single professionals to gather, mingle, and blow off steam after a hard day at work. We give you a few interesting choices for a memorable date in the city of Charlotte for all you single professionals.

Aria Tuscan Grill

Can you think of anything more romantic than an Italian fine dining experience? There is nothing finer than a delectable meal in Aria Tuscan Grill. You can see the kitchen from the dining area, the chefs that create all the delicious entrees are the best in the world, and the city’s most powerful people make their way down from their posh apartments to have dinner here.

The Carolina Lanes

This is a great place for a low-pressure fun date. It offers affordable rates to all bowlers of any skill level, which is guaranteed to stimulate a bit of good-natured competition between you and your date, adding loads of fun to your night out. The place is ideal for both a group date scenarios, and a one-on-one date night.

Bentley’s on 27

The breathtaking view up from the 27th floor will surely sweep your date off her feet. Their food is top-notch, with a special table presentation that will take your dating experience to new heights.

Sir Edmond Halley’s

Sir Edmond Halley’s is a British pub where you can see a lot of the single professionals hang out. It has a casual environment, offers cold drinks and good food.

In adherence to its British theme, the pub offers its signature ale, which is available by the pint. An outdoor patio is open to patrons as long as the weather permits, and allows for a more quiet conversation away from the louder indoor area, so you can get to know each other before diving back inside to enjoy the loud live music.

McDowell Park

If you want to escape the hustle and bustle of the Uptown scene and get away from the luxury apartments of Charlotte, you can always take a walk through a beautiful park. A lot of marriage proposals have taken place in this area, so you can imagine how romantic the place is.

There are a lot of single professionals in the Charlotte adult dating scene, and they want to connect with daters like yourself. There are many dating sites out there, but few only cater to Charlotte’s single professionals, so check out those that offer this service and be ready to fall in love.

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The Emerald City is known for a lot of things: gorgeous scenery, fun outdoor activities, active environmental conservation, modern industries, and its locals. I don’t know if you’ve heard about it, but there is also something called “The Seattle Freeze.”

Rumor has it that it’s tough to make friends in Seattle if you’re a new transferee. The locals are friendly, kind, and helpful, but don’t be surprised if you don’t get any invitations to join any of their social circles. I’m not sure if I agree with this theory, but I have to admit that it has some merits, and it carries over to the Seattle adult dating scene. As a decent looking female, I don’t experience this “dating freeze” directly, but it expresses itself in random invitations.

Guys in the Seattle adult dating scene don’t ask for dates directly. I usually hear them say things like, “We should hang out,” or “Hey, you want to meet up with me and my buddies?” and “Great, I’m heading there too. Maybe we can meet and catch up!” The scenario leaves the awkward question of whether “this” is actually a date or not. You see, being rational people, we know guys aren’t looking for their next girl best friend. They’re talking to you because they’re interested and they find you attractive. So why not just come out and say, “Can I ask you out on a date?” No horsing around, no confusion. He asks you out, he opens doors for you, and he pays. It’s that easy.

A friend and I came up with a theory about this oblique communication style used in the Seattle adult dating scene. Some attribute this style to passive-aggressive behavior, while others to the Greek culture spreading throughout our fair city. We call it “pnwasion,” short for Pacific Northwest Persuasion, and it’s taken from our dominant Asian and Nordic cultural influences. It means we’re not confrontational; we like to suggest, not demand; we are not aggressive; and we like to leave an “opt out” clause. In short, we offer you the big picture, and if you can figure out what we want, we’ll get along nicely.

While I am indeed guilty of having pnwasive speech patterns and behavior, I suggest we try to change our way to communicate. The “let’s hang out” line, while seeming casual and noncommittal, is actually the worst trap there is. She can’t say, “Sorry, I’m not interested,” because you never said you were interested, right? And if she says, “No, I’d rather not,” then you are left wondering about what part of your personality is so horrendous that she doesn’t even want to spend a little time with you. Do you see where this leads?

So guys, the best way for you is go the direct route, and ask them, “Would you like to go out on a date with me?” Try to practice in front of the mirror, and then try you inflections on your trusted friends. And ladies, please don’t be offended by the straightforwardness. It’s actually polite, it gives you an out, and it feels great!

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It looks like the Seattle adult dating pool is getting smarter. According to statistical data published by The Puget Sound Business Journal, almost 17,000 single college graduates have moved to the Seattle area from 1995 to 2000.

This is great news, so where are these smart singletons? Where???

Maybe it’s about time to get our Seattle adult dating pool a lifeguard to help us quit horsing around and overcome our fear of commitment. Yes, that’s it, out of the water.

Enough with playing games, throwing around mixed signals, and the soap opera-like scenarios we keep getting ourselves in. We already know enough to not run around wet floors.

Let’s all save ourselves the heartaches, and follow these rules in dating.

If you’re married, wear the freakin’ wedding ring.

We have all probably mastered the “left hand, ring finger check” by now, so when it registers a false negative, it throws people off. I know many may feel constrained by a piece of symbolic marriage jewelry, but please do everyone a favor and get a cheap band somewhere and wear it every time you mingle with singles. Imagine how we feel knowing we just gave out our number to somebody else’s spouse.

It would be of considerable help if the wedding ring is visible at a far enough distance to avoid any more embarrassing situations. Think: day-glo with blinking photon beams.

If you’re a homosexual, please be flamboyant about it.

I’ve had my fair share of having crushes on gay guys which had me start believing I need to be a gay man to hook up with decent guys these days. It’s difficult enough to prevent ourselves from crushing on you once we know you’re gay, so please stop confusing us by being kind, sensitive, and ambiguous.

To the organizers of singles events, turn down the music.

How do you expect everyone to have a decent conversation when the bass volume is so strong we can feel it reverberate in our lungs?

They probably think that the whole point of it all is to forget the whole compatibility crap and make us all rely solely on animal magnetism.

The following rules apply to the increasingly popular trend of online dating:

Refrain from using stupid usernames.

Take a moment to think carefully about a photo before posting it.

Double check and re-read your profile content.

Don’t lie about your age.

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