Do you need size to hookup with girls?

9:25 PM / Posted by datesforsex11 / comments (0)

A man’s ego resides in his dick; we all know that. This is why men boast about their size and performance and would pay anything to gain some inches…’cause deep down inside, no matter how big it is, it can never be big enough! Just look around you at the growing industry of products geared to making it bigger and harder….it’s multi-millionaire! But do you need big size to hookup with girls ?

I’m sure the first reference you ever had to sex were your Dad’s well-hidden porn magazines…or a friend’s porn stash… thing is, you grew up watching 10-12 inch dicks as the normal standard, when chances are, you have a 5-7 inch weaner, which is the absolute standard. It’s funny how, when questioned, men think that the average dick is around 8 inches, that is well, above the real average…and so they end up feeling inadequate as far as their size.

Then there’s all this talk about performance… and performance meaning how long you can last, how hard it was and how many times you came. Last time you were in a locker room, did you ever hear a guy boast about how many orgasms he gave his partner? Quite unlikely. This is why the Viagra industry simply exploded and has made millions… you’d think it’s a bunch of old geezers trying to get it up…but let me tell you a lot of Viagra is being consumed by young guys just like yourself who believe they need to be ready to go whenever, and who even then, don’t feel like they are performing according to social expectations.

There’s even clear examples of men who feel that using a condom goes in detriment of their erection, so they altogether give up on using one! In other words, it’s sacrificing safety for performance and that is just plain stupid! Wearing a condom can protect you in so many ways and you shouldn’t let your ego get the way for it.

Don’t fall prey to the rat race man… believe me when I tell you that women are not looking for Long John Silver or a guy who can go at it all night long when they want to get a laid… if you speak to them, they’ll tell you both scenarios are potentially painful for them. It’s not about the size sometimes. So just relax and have fun.

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Roommate’s Fling Spot

5:57 PM / Posted by datesforsex11 / comments (0)

Dear Doctor:
I am 22 and have always considered myself to be straight. I’ve lived with my college roommate for 3 years now and we’ve become very good friends, totally platonic relationship. Up until 2 weeks ago, we were alone, in our room, had a bit too much to drink and we ended up making out and turning our room into a fling spot. She is straight as well and we are both mortified at the implications of what we have done.

Personally, I feel like just running from this whole situation and not having to see her again. I liked what happened but I am nowhere ready to do this publicly and I still very much like guys. In fact, I’m dating one!! I am so confused.

Dear reader:
Remember that straight, gay and bisexual are all labels…nothing more than that. Fitting into one or the other doesn’t change your essence; you are and will always be the same person you were minutes before this event in your life took place…no matter where this new road will lead to. You don’t discuss your religious or cultural beliefs regarding homosexuality but always remember that sexual preference says absolutely nothing about a person, other than who they are physically attracted to, that’s it.

Now, although it’s not that well-known, the truth is that many women have sexual encounters of some sort with other women, at some point in their life. It’s especially common during the teen-age and college years, when people are much more open to experimentation and when we are discovering who we are and what we like. May I say that part of discovering what we like is trying out new things to determine if they tickle our toes or not. In this case, it seems like this novelty in your life was pleasant but don’t feel that it necessarily defines who you are or will be.

If you were to close your eyes right now and somebody kissed you and fingered you, chances are you would enjoy it because your body reacts to the physical stimulation it’s receiving. Now as you open you eyes and realize that the person pleasuring you is not who it “should be”, then your prejudices, beliefs and fears step in to “control” your behavior and correct it. It’s very possible that the alcohol you both had, allowed you to act freely, setting aside all those preconceptions you’ve accumulated thru the years. Add to that you were in the company of a woman you love and trust, all the more comfort to act on the impulses you shared at the moment.

The fact that you were, or are, attracted to this woman doesn’t mean you’ll find another woman attractive and it certainly doesn’t mean you need to discard men from your life!! Truth be it, I think there’s a bit of bisexuality in all of us. The thing is women are more socially permitted to get touchy- feely with other women so we unload some of that sexual tension, without it getting sexual.

As far as how to handle the here and now with the guy you’re seeing. I’m sure he’d love to join you two and get a laid in threesome! And quite frankly, he doesn’t need to know about this experience unless you feel like pursuing this with her. As far as your roommate, I guess, speak with her openly to see where she’s at mentally. She can either be a safe and wonderful person to experiment this aspect of your life with and see where it leads to. Or it can be nothing more than a one-night thing and end it at that. The important thing is that you guys discuss it frankly and come to an agreement that suits the both of you.

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Hookup with Girls Advice

5:57 PM / Posted by datesforsex11 / comments (0)

Some people don’t want to go beyond one night stands. Then there are those who want to find a fuck-buddy who they can comfortably call to get it on every once in a while, without any sort of commitment or responsibility. While some are really looking for their perfect match in life. This is where your sexual skills can either make or break your plans. Your ability to hookup with girls is really what you need to work on.

Even if you are only establishing a casual relationship, it’s a type of relationship in the end and certain rules of courtesy apply. Chances are most women won’t go for a ring followed by “Can we fuck?” A woman is a woman and she’ll expect some sort of something previous to the actual act. It doesn’t need to be a fancy dinner but think of an introductory activity in a private setting, where you guys will comfortably move into sex eventually.

Once there, how do you suggest to get a laid without being too blunt? We suggest you begin with the classic make-out session and slowly move down her body. By no means go straight for her tits, her ass or other private part ‘cause that’s a total turn-off for women…even for skanky ones. Their motors need warming up and though we understand that you’re ready from the moment you called to meet up; that’s probably not her case. Remember it’s important for the experience to be as enjoyable for her, as it is for you, or else she won’t be returning your calls anytime soon. She’s looking for a good time, just like you are. So make sure you show her one!!

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